It’s almost that time of year again, and I just wanted to take a moment to check in.
At this time of year, it’s normal to feel a sense of ennui or even depression at the thought of Valentine’s Day. To some people, Valentine’s Day means a day to express how much you love someone who (hopefully) loves you back. For others, it feels like a reminder of our own personal failures or shortcomings. And that’s okay to feel that way.
But do we really need to cram the expressions of all our emotions into just one single day? If we love somebody, shouldn’t we want to express it every day in some fashion?
Over the years, I’ve learned there are many different forms love can assume. The more I struggle against the universe, the more it struggles against me, and vice versa. The same is true for love.
Rose Nylund from the Golden Girls sums it up well:
We don’t have control over who loves us and how. What we do have control over is how we love who we love.
So, I want to pose a suggestion:
Show the people in your lives you care about them, regardless. I am a firm believer in karma. Eventually, someone will see you for who you are on the inside. It may take a long time. It can be frustrating, for sure.
We cannot control other people’s actions, but we can control our own. Put the energy from your frustrations into more constructive uses. I guarantee there is somebody in your life who could use the exact same pick-me-up. Use the opportunity to show those you care about how much you really care. If they are somebody worth keeping in your life, they will show you the same consideration.
Again, love takes many forms.
I just wanted to take this moment to express to the people in my life I care about my appreciation they are in it. Year round.
May you find peace with yourself, within yourself.