The (Disappointing) MAJOR Update…

Sometimes, we expect things will work out better than they actually do when the time comes.  And well…

This is one of those times for me.

Disappointed Aspie is Disappointed…

You see, I had applied to Drexel University for a Master’s Degree in Digital Media.  I found out a little while ago that I was not accepted to the program, which is apparently that competitive.  Perhaps that was a blessing in disguise.  If the program is so intense to get into, maybe I would not have done so well in it, after all.  Around the same time, I had expressed to Best Buy that I was interested in coming back.  I got to the second interview (out of 3).  I was told they would contact me if I was selected for the last interview.  They never called.  I then found out that my student loans are due to start repayment in July, and I don’t have a job.

The point is LIFE IS FULL OF DISAPPOINTMENTS.  These disappointments seem to be hitting pretty hard lately.  But here’s the thing about disappointments:  The disappointments don’t define us.  What does define us is how we handle them.  Quite frankly, I could have handled some of them a tad better than I actually did.  And if I was rational, I probably would have.  Which brings us to…


Like I said, how we handle what comes our way in life is what makes us who we are.  I know this isn’t easy for many (if not all) of us to do.  But it’s something we need to keep in mind as much as we can.  Do whatever it takes to stay rational.  Because when we become irrational, we lose all sense of ourselves and make poor life decisions…

…which can lead to more disappointments later on.

Do whatever works for you to stay rational.  Even if it means forcing yourself to stay rational, it can prevent you from making mistakes that will lead to more disappointment later.  For some people, that comes easier than for others.  Different people will have different coping methods for these occasions, so I’m not going to list all the possible things you could try.  Instead I’ll just impart some words of wisdom:

“It’s not whether you win or lose, it’s how you play the game.” – Anonymous

Likewise with life, it’s not whether you get everything you want, it’s how you handle what you get.  In the end, we can’t take everything with us, anyway.  We’ll only be remembered for how we lived.  So live like you’re dying and take the time to enjoy your life.  Even if it’s full of disappointments.  You’ll never know what it will lead to in the future…

By Jon Dorfman

I created The Aspie Dialogues. I like music/rhythm video games, working on video production, and creative writing. Most importantly of all, I love all my subscribers to the blog. Thank you all so much for your undying support... Even when I haven't posted for a while. May you find peace with yourself, within yourself. Rock on, Spectrumites!


  1. Just found your blog. I am the mom to an Aspie who will be starting middle school next year. I find your blog comforting. You see I see you going through some really tough times dealing with things that even NT kids your age deal with that are tough. The point is you are dealing and Living your life and yes that to me is comforting. I wish I could protect my boy from heartache and disappointment… But that is not life. You my friend have a great attitude. Life is what we make of it. I tell my boy all the time that he has Aspergers but it doesn’t have to have him. You are living proof of that. Remember that.
    Okay one little mom advice to you as far as your student loans… Call the loan company and tell them you are not working and they will give you an extension. Your loan will still acquire the interest but you can take 6 months to a year without having to make payments. As long as you do it before your first payment is over due and are upfront they will work with you.

    Thanks for speaking do honestly and openly.
    The very proud mama to another Aspie

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