Last week, I digressed for a moment to pay tribute to a personal source of inspiration for me. However, there was a snippet in there about negative emotions and the importance of letting them out.
LET ME BE CLEAR ABOUT THIS! There are right ways to do so, and wrong ways to do so!
So, this week, I wanted to suggest some ways to let these emotions out safely and appropriately.
1. Before starting any of these suggestions, you may find it helpful to talk to somebody you know and trust about what’s been bothering you. He or she (or they, if you speak to more than one person about it) may be able to help you and offer you guidance. Worst comes to worst, they can provide a shoulder to cry on. Just try not to discuss in public. Personal matters may be better discussed in a more personal setting. It’s up to you, though.
2. Take a deep breath and count to x. X can be any number you want. X could be 10, 100, 3, 50, whatever. It’s all up to whatever is most comfortable for you.
3. Go for a walk. You could walk for 20 minutes, a half hour, a full hour. Again, it’s up to what you’re comfortable with. Just let your loved ones know what’s on your mind before you do it, so they know you’re safe.
4. Exercise in general can be a good physical outlet. You’d be surprised by how much pent up aggression you can relieve safely just by getting some daily exercise in. These can be sit-ups, push-ups, lifting weights, going to the gym, whatever you want it to be. Just don’t overdo it, and don’t take it out on the equipment, either.
5. This may seem counterintuitive at first glance when someone else is causing an incident and making you upset, but hear me out. When this scenario happens, the other person wants to get a rise out of you. They want the power to control your emotions. Don’t give it to them. You can always walk away. You have the power to remove yourself from a tense situation before you become upset. If the other person sees he or she is not getting his or her desired reaction from you, this person is more likely to leave you alone in the future. This one may take more practice than the others, but it’s worth it in the end.
I hope this has been enough of a help to get you guys started. May you find peace with yourself, within yourself.